THE UNFUCKENING™

Recovering from Other People

A colourful, funny and tender memoir about trauma, relationships, recovery — and what happens when understanding yourself isn’t enough to actually heal.

I’d learnt loads about trauma, attachment, boundaries and healthy relationships. I understood myself better than ever.

But I was still living with trauma symptoms so generously gifted to me by other people.

So what else was there to do?

Insight and education gave me the important concepts, but understanding why I was traumatised didn’t make the trauma go away. After decades of living with sexual trauma and a lifetime of fucked up relationships of all varieties, I knew that insight wasn’t the piece I was missing.

I needed to finally lay that emotional egg so that I could start feeling safe enough to actually live and move on from it.

The Unfuckening is a colourful, funny and tender account of what that recovery actually looked and felt like, without the textbook vibe. And a lot of analogies that will both ground emotional concepts and possibly haunt you forever.

I didn’t need another map.

This is the story of what happened when I finally travelled through the territory and came out the other side.

Have a rummage through my wet brain and take what you like.

Coming December 2026

The Unfuckening: Recovering from Other People is currently expected to be published on 1 December 2026.

The manuscript is finished and with my publisher, but there’s still a road between here and the book landing in your hands — editing, production, cover reveals and all the other mysterious things that happen after an author finally stops fucking with the manuscript and sends it away.

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