by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 15/07/25 | Blog
The first time, I was 10. The second time, it happened repeatedly in my teens with an abusive ex. The third time, I was in my 20s. I don’t do this work because it’s an “area of interest.” I do this work because I was fucked up by other people – and I know what...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 12/07/25 | Blog
There’s a quiet fear I hear from a lot of people: “If I start healing… will I have to cut everyone off?” It’s not that they don’t want to get better. It’s that they don’t want to lose the people they still love—even if those relationships are challenging, complicated,...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 10/07/25 | Blog
You Don’t Have to Go No Contact Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get said enough in the healing world: You don’t have to go no contact. Sometimes you see people share their healing journey and it ends with cutting off parents, siblings, or childhood friends....
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 08/07/25 | Blog
At the end of yet another failed relationship (age 30, zero chill, full existential meltdown), I did something a bit raw. I asked my ex for honest feedback. Not in a manipulative way. Not fishing for compliments. I genuinely wanted to understand what hadn’t worked—so...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 10/06/25 | Blog
ooContent Warning: This blog discusses topics related to trauma, emotional recovery, and self-care. Please proceed with caution. I joined Tiffany Simms for a deeply honest conversation where we explored how trauma shapes our emotional lives—and what it really takes to...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 03/06/25 | Blog
Content Warning: This post/podcast discusses trauma and healing. Please take care while reading and skip it if you feel it may be triggering. I recently had the honour of joining Marci Mitchell and Debbie DiManno on The Warrior Parent Podcast for a powerful and deeply...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 31/05/25 | Blog
What kind of benefits the most from your lack of anger? Think about that for a second. Because I’ll tell you one thing, people who really see you, really get you and believe you, and are able to hold that space for you? They want you to feel your anger, as you...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 29/05/25 | Blog
When we’ve not had a healthy experience of anger, we most often tie it to violence, danger, and shame. Because the people who’ve been the biggest examples of anger to us have typically been emotionally dysregulated, emotionally immature, and maybe even...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 27/05/25 | Blog
When we’ve had wonky programming around relationships, we can have a challenging time, or even feel triggered and unsafe when healthy and normal emotions such as anger comes up. If you relate to this, how does anger show up in your relationships? And how...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 24/05/25 | Blog
I used to think consistency was a delusion. Now I know it’s what secure love actually feels like. Hyper-independence and anxious attachment both come from the same place – learning to survive by reading the room. Your nervous system scans for cues, because your...
