by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 13/05/25 | Blog
There comes a point when you have to admit: what used to work just isn’t cutting it anymore. Life changes. You change. And sometimes, the coping mechanisms that once got you through are now just adding to the chaos – or doing absolutely nothing. Maybe you’re...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 10/05/25 | Blog
You don’t need more insight. You don’t need another “trauma bonding explained” video. You don’t need to decode one more avoidant’s texting behavior like it’s a sacred scroll. You already KNOW. You’re painfully self-aware. You could teach a masterclass called “Why I...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 08/05/25 | Blog
“If I just prove I’m the dog’s bollocks, they’ll love me.” —me, emotionally dehydrated, living off attention crumbs and false hope. I used to think if I was calm enough, chill enough, sexy enough, non-needy enough, cool enough… They’d wake up one day and be like,...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 06/05/25 | Blog
You keep saying: “They never text back.” “They shut down emotionally.” “They’re allergic to intimacy and probably hugs.” Okay. Valid. BUT ALSO… your anxious little inner child is out here clinging like a koala on espresso. Let’s be real: You’re not calm either. You’re...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 03/05/25 | Blog
Ah yes, forgiveness. The spiritual flex everyone tells you to do when you’re clearly still emotionally constipated from your last situationship. You journal. You sage your f*cking living room. You say, “I know they were doing their best,” while your left eye twitches...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 01/05/25 | Blog
You’re out here trying to project manage your love life like it’s a Google spreadsheet. “If we just have a calm convo about this at 7:15pm with an I-statement, I’m sure it’ll fix everything.” LOL no. Your relationship isn’t a TED Talk. It’s a chaotic nervous...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 29/04/25 | Blog
The books. The boundaries. The screenshots you send your friends to ask, “How do I say this without sounding crazy?” Your dating life is a full-time unpaid internship. And still… nothing changes. Here’s why: Strategy is just socially acceptable anxiety. You think if...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 26/04/25 | Blog
If your dating history looks like a graveyard of ghosters, slow-faders, and emotionally stunted exes… It might not just be “bad luck.” Hot take: Your hyper-independence is basically a neon sign that says “I won’t need sh*t from you emotionally!” And avoidant people...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 24/04/25 | Blog
You’re the chill one. You’re “easy to date.” You don’t ask for much. You don’t need much. Except… you do. You just won’t admit it. Because you’d rather eat glass than risk being seen as “needy.” Being low-maintenance isn’t a flex—it’s emotional self-abandonment in a...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 22/04/25 | Blog
You’re always giving. You show up. You hold space. You’re the emotional IKEA of relationships—convenient, reliable, and always fixing sh*t. And what do you get in return? Crumbs. Vibes. “I’m just going through a lot right now” texts. Because being selfless isn’t...
