Stop Waiting For Them To Change

Stop Waiting For Them To Change

If you want healthier, happier, more secure relationships… It has very little to do with getting the other person to see your point of view. Or to finally admit they were in the wrong. Or to commit to changing the dynamic. You can’t make a different cake with the same...
It’s Not Your Fault

It’s Not Your Fault

For years, I thought I was just bad at relationships. Romantic. Family. Friendships. Didn’t matter. They were messy. Painful. Dysfunctional. And I was the common denominator. I felt like a failure. Like something was deeply wrong with me. Because surely, if I was...
#MeToo

#MeToo

The first time, I was 10. The second time, it happened repeatedly in my teens with an abusive ex. The third time, I was in my 20s. I don’t do this work because it’s an “area of interest.” I do this work because I was fucked up by other people – and I know what...
Can You Heal Without Going No Contact?

Can You Heal Without Going No Contact?

There’s a quiet fear I hear from a lot of people: “If I start healing… will I have to cut everyone off?” It’s not that they don’t want to get better. It’s that they don’t want to lose the people they still love—even if those relationships are challenging, complicated,...
You Don’t Have to Go No Contact

You Don’t Have to Go No Contact

You Don’t Have to Go No Contact Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get said enough in the healing world: You don’t have to go no contact. Sometimes you see people share their healing journey and it ends with cutting off parents, siblings, or childhood friends....
My Ex Rated Me 10/10 on TripAdvisor

My Ex Rated Me 10/10 on TripAdvisor

At the end of yet another failed relationship (age 30, zero chill, full existential meltdown), I did something a bit raw. I asked my ex for honest feedback. Not in a manipulative way. Not fishing for compliments. I genuinely wanted to understand what hadn’t worked—so...
Anger Is Essential for Healthy Love

Anger Is Essential for Healthy Love

When we’ve not had a healthy experience of anger, we most often tie it to violence, danger, and shame. Because the people who’ve been the biggest examples of anger to us have typically been emotionally dysregulated, emotionally immature, and maybe even...