There comes a point when you have to admit: what used to work just isn’t cutting it anymore.
Life changes. You change. And sometimes, the coping mechanisms that once got you through are now just adding to the chaos – or doing absolutely nothing.
Maybe you’re completely exhausted from trying to hold it all together. Spinning plates, saying “I’m fine” when you’re not.
One of the biggest shifts comes when you finally drop the hyper-independent mindset and let people see you. Imperfections and all. Even if that means hearing the odd unsolicited opinion from people desperate to share their two cents.
Yes, it’s scary. And no, I haven’t handled it all with grace either. But it got easier once I stopped running from myself and actually started processing the emotional weight I was carrying.
So the question is:
Are you going to wait until life forces your hand? Until everything comes crashing down? Or will you choose to deal with what’s coming up before it knocks you sideways?
Because I promise you there is so much freedom on the other side of letting go.
So take the fear, the avoidance, the “I’ll do it later”… and chuck it in the f*ck-it bucket.
Life’s too short to carry what no longer serves you.
My turning point was facing cancer at 25. That was life saying, “We can do this the easy way, or the hard way.” And trust me, while the easy way still takes courage, it’s far less likely to leave you with metaphorical (or literal) singed eyebrows.
You don’t have to wait for crisis to make a change. You just have to be ready to stop doing it alone.
If this hits home, I’m here.