by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 29/07/25 | Blog
Overgiving Feeds Insecure Attachment Overgiving is one of the most socially acceptable trauma responses out there. It looks generous. Kind. Thoughtful. But often, it’s not about love at all. It’s about fear. Fear that if you don’t constantly pour into the...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 24/07/25 | Blog
Having nightmares regularly? It’s often more than just ‘bad dreams’. Nightmares are one of the most common signs of unresolved trauma. But even beyond that, they’re often a signal – a desperate cry from a part of your subconscious that can’t get through to you...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 22/07/25 | Blog
Most people think setting a boundary means saying, “don’t do that again.” That’s only half true. Boundaries have two steps – and most people stop after step one. Step one is stating the boundary. Step two is following through with consequences if that boundary...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 19/07/25 | Blog
If you want healthier, happier, more secure relationships… It has very little to do with getting the other person to see your point of view. Or to finally admit they were in the wrong. Or to commit to changing the dynamic. You can’t make a different cake with the same...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 17/07/25 | Blog
For years, I thought I was just bad at relationships. Romantic. Family. Friendships. Didn’t matter. They were messy. Painful. Dysfunctional. And I was the common denominator. I felt like a failure. Like something was deeply wrong with me. Because surely, if I was...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 15/07/25 | Blog
The first time, I was 10. The second time, it happened repeatedly in my teens with an abusive ex. The third time, I was in my 20s. I don’t do this work because it’s an “area of interest.” I do this work because I was fucked up by other people – and I know what...
