“Just let it go.”
“Stop overthinking it.”
“Try to distract yourself.”
“Maybe you just need meds.”
“Move on.”
These are the go-to responses we hear when our emotions won’t shut up.
And let’s be clear—sometimes distraction, suppression, or medication can be helpful. They have their place.
But if we want real healing?
You don’t get over an emotion by avoiding it.
You have to go through it.
That means slowing down. Getting curious. Letting it speak.
We talk about emotions like they’re external forces—like a mood that crashes in out of nowhere. But they’re not separate. Your emotions are messages from parts of you. Real, valid, human parts of your identity that are trying to get your attention.
When we ignore them, we’re not just dismissing a feeling—we’re cutting off pieces of ourselves.
That’s not healing. That’s internal exile.
And over time, it just makes the emotional noise louder.
I remember one of my NHS patients—years ago—who told me, flat-out, that she hated her anxiety.
She said it with fire in her voice. “I don’t want to listen to it. I want it gone.”
And I understood. It made sense.
But the truth is, that anxiety wasn’t going anywhere until it was heard.
Because emotions that are ignored… shout louder.
Until they feel safe enough to stop.
The good news?
Listening to your emotions isn’t as hard as it sounds.
There’s a process. And it works.
Not because it fixes you—but because it helps you finally hear yourself.
If this resonates and you’re tired of fighting your own feelings, I’ve got something coming for you.
My Emotional Regulation Mini Course is launching soon—short, affordable, and genuinely effective.
Because you don’t need to keep “letting go.”
You need to come home to yourself.