You’re out here trying to project manage your love life like it’s a Google spreadsheet.
“If we just have a calm convo about this at 7:15pm with an I-statement, I’m sure it’ll fix everything.”
LOL no.
Your relationship isn’t a TED Talk.
It’s a chaotic nervous system swap meet, and problem-solving your way through intimacy is like trying to hug a porcupine naked.
If your body doesn’t feel safe, your logic is useless.
You can write a bloody dissertation on your feelings and still get ghosted by someone whose idea of emotional depth is sending “👀.”
You don’t need another communication technique.
You need to stop trying to control connection like a hostage negotiator.
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