You Don’t Have to Go No Contact
Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get said enough in the healing world:
You don’t have to go no contact.
Sometimes you see people share their healing journey and it ends with cutting off parents, siblings, or childhood friends. And for some people? That is absolutely the right call. It’s not just brave—it’s necessary.
But not everyone wants that. And not everyone needs that.
One of the reasons people resist healing their relationship patterns is because they’re scared that doing so means cutting off people they love—even if those relationships are painful or complicated.
They don’t want to end up isolated. They don’t want to lose family ties. They don’t want to be forced into choices they’re not ready for.
And honestly? That fear is valid.
When I was deep in my own healing, I had some really hard truths come up—stuff I’d buried, minimised, or normalised. But even in the middle of all that, I knew I didn’t want to go no contact.
Not because I was scared. Not because I was trauma-bonded. But because, for me personally, part of ending the trauma cycle meant not repeating the generational pattern of estrangement.
In my family, estrangement has been a theme. A legacy, even. And while that might be right for someone else, it wasn’t my path.
I wanted something different.
Not perfect. Not healed overnight. But different.
And over time, healing made that difference possible.
Because when you’re emotionally regulated, even the most triggering people lose their power over you.
You can spot their patterns, hold your boundaries, and meet them exactly where they are—without losing yourself in the process.
Sometimes, that’s the most powerful change of all: not needing them to be different in order for you to feel okay.
If you don’t want to cut people off, I want you to know…
That’s okay.
You’re not doing healing “wrong.”
There’s more than one way to end a trauma cycle.
And if you want support with that kind of grounded, powerful emotional resilience—I’ve got something coming your way.
My Emotional Regulation Mini Course is launching soon: affordable, accessible, quick and actually effective (even if you’re easily distracted).
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Because you get to heal on your terms. Always.