by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 29/04/25 | Blog
The books. The boundaries. The screenshots you send your friends to ask, “How do I say this without sounding crazy?” Your dating life is a full-time unpaid internship. And still… nothing changes. Here’s why: Strategy is just socially acceptable anxiety. You think if...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 26/04/25 | Blog
If your dating history looks like a graveyard of ghosters, slow-faders, and emotionally stunted exes… It might not just be “bad luck.” Hot take: Your hyper-independence is basically a neon sign that says “I won’t need sh*t from you emotionally!” And avoidant people...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 24/04/25 | Blog
You’re the chill one. You’re “easy to date.” You don’t ask for much. You don’t need much. Except… you do. You just won’t admit it. Because you’d rather eat glass than risk being seen as “needy.” Being low-maintenance isn’t a flex—it’s emotional self-abandonment in a...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 22/04/25 | Blog
You’re always giving. You show up. You hold space. You’re the emotional IKEA of relationships—convenient, reliable, and always fixing sh*t. And what do you get in return? Crumbs. Vibes. “I’m just going through a lot right now” texts. Because being selfless isn’t...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 19/04/25 | Blog
You’ve crushed your career. You’ve built the life. You’ve read the books, done the therapy, and probably have a journal that could make Freud weep. So why the hell does your love life still feel like a group project with someone who never shows up? Here’s the problem:...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 17/04/25 | Blog
You could take a whole masterclass on communication. You could word your needs like a love & light baby angel with a conflict-resolution diploma. And guess what? They’d still pull away. Not because you said the wrong thing. But because your nervous system is...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 15/04/25 | Blog
You’ve done therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve watched enough TikToks about attachment styles to qualify for an honorary psych degree. So why the f*ck are you still dating people who treat you like a backup charger? Here’s the truth no one’s telling you: 💥 It’s...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 10/04/25 | Blog
Having avoidant attachment on its own is not a personality disorder; it’s a relational pattern. And therefore it could change.And usually, if you’re having challenges with avoidant people, it’s because you’re an anxious/disorganised attacher yourself. This results in...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 08/04/25 | Blog
When you’re in a relationship with someone abusive and narcissistic, getting out can often feel like pulling yourself out of the grand canyon using only your little finger. But you’ve done it, and thank god. And then the confusing roller coaster of dating avoidant...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 05/04/25 | Blog
You’ve fought long and hard for your wins. For yourself. You’ve gone above and beyond to create the change you’ve needed. You’re a doer. Because of your efforts, you’ve already got a lot to be proud of. You’ve come such a long way from where you started. Keep going....
