Ah yes, forgiveness.
The spiritual flex everyone tells you to do when you’re clearly still emotionally constipated from your last situationship.
You journal.
You sage your f*cking living room.
You say, “I know they were doing their best,” while your left eye twitches from suppressed rage.
Here’s the thing:
Forgiveness is NOT a nervous system regulation technique.
You can’t forgive your way out of trauma if your body is still bracing for the next abandonment.
Sometimes forgiveness is just a shiny bandaid over a gaping hole where your righteous anger should’ve been.
It’s an “I’m resilient” mask… that still sobs into ice cream at 2AM.
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