by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 27/05/25 | Blog
When we’ve had wonky programming around relationships, we can have a challenging time, or even feel triggered and unsafe when healthy and normal emotions such as anger comes up. If you relate to this, how does anger show up in your relationships? And how...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 24/05/25 | Blog
I used to think consistency was a delusion. Now I know it’s what secure love actually feels like. Hyper-independence and anxious attachment both come from the same place – learning to survive by reading the room. Your nervous system scans for cues, because your...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 22/05/25 | Blog
They didn’t yell. They didn’t gaslight. They just… didn’t show up. And somehow that felt harder to accept; it had become far easier to let go, and even not entertain, a-holes in the first place. But to be connected to someone lovely and kind, but who I could never...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 20/05/25 | Blog
I had left the narcissist. I had boundaries. I could recite my “I’m not settling for that again” speech in my sleep. And still – I was dating ghosts. She was the first “safe” person I chose. No yelling. No gaslighting. Kind, respectful. But something was off....
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 17/05/25 | Blog
You don’t have to be a “bitch.” But let’s be honest, being a people-pleaser hasn’t exactly paid off, has it? Somewhere along the line, you learned that keeping others happy was the key to staying safe. That saying “yes” and staying quiet would help you avoid conflict,...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 15/05/25 | Blog
You deserve real, lasting love. The kind that feels safe, mutual, and deeply fulfilling. Wanting that doesn’t make you needy, broken, or behind. It makes you human. I’ve been to more weddings than I can count over the past decade, and most of the time on my own, my...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 13/05/25 | Blog
There comes a point when you have to admit: what used to work just isn’t cutting it anymore. Life changes. You change. And sometimes, the coping mechanisms that once got you through are now just adding to the chaos – or doing absolutely nothing. Maybe you’re...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 10/05/25 | Blog
You don’t need more insight. You don’t need another “trauma bonding explained” video. You don’t need to decode one more avoidant’s texting behavior like it’s a sacred scroll. You already KNOW. You’re painfully self-aware. You could teach a masterclass called “Why I...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 08/05/25 | Blog
“If I just prove I’m the dog’s bollocks, they’ll love me.” —me, emotionally dehydrated, living off attention crumbs and false hope. I used to think if I was calm enough, chill enough, sexy enough, non-needy enough, cool enough… They’d wake up one day and be like,...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 06/05/25 | Blog
You keep saying: “They never text back.” “They shut down emotionally.” “They’re allergic to intimacy and probably hugs.” Okay. Valid. BUT ALSO… your anxious little inner child is out here clinging like a koala on espresso. Let’s be real: You’re not calm either. You’re...
